Wedding Homily. St. Joseph Chapel @ Holy Cross Oct 7, 2023

My beloved John and Nasly:

Let’s take stock of what you’re surrounded by on your wedding day. You are surrounded by the saints— our companions, cheerleaders, and most reliable allies on the journey. You just listened to scripture, –God’s letter to his children, God’s mouthpiece. You are before the Altar of history, the altar of sacrifice, the place of encounter between heaven and earth, between divinity and humanity. Candles are lit– symbols of the presence of the holy spirit, truth beyond all telling. Glorious songs and beautiful voices — echoing the glory of God. Bread and wine will be brought in for transfiguration—source and summit of all lives. You are in the presence of your beautiful families, best friends and loved ones here to celebrate you— they have advised you, mentored you, taught you, mother and father you, taught and supported you throughout many stages of your lifetime. 

What the message are you conveying to yourselves, to them, and those who will hear about this day in 5, 10, 20, 50, 70, 100 years from now?

You’re whispering to yourselves and to all that marriage as a sacrament only makes lasting sense if it is joined by the Church, strengthened by the eucharistic offering, sealed by a heavenly blessing, supported by angels and saints, and ratified by the Father, Son, and HS. 

There’s more… through the bond of marriage, you’re saying that you want to be one in hope, one in desire, one in discipline, one in service, one in the efforts of becoming saints, and undivided in spirit and flesh. 

And you have come to realize that you both will fall short despite your best intentions without the abundant wine of grace flowing constantly in this union. Grace, grace.

How important is grace? Let me put it this way: Grace is to our endeavors and plans, what wind is to a sailor, what water is to fish, what air is to our lungs, what brush is to a painter, and what Jesus is to a Christian. No grace no happy marriage! That’s how necessary grace here. That’s what you’re saying to all.

Grace entitles to God’s help as the couple in the gospel was at the wedding of Cana. Grace grants you the ever-present advocate and ally in Mary in your journey.

Now, you are here because you are in love, obviously. As the Russian poet Fyodor Dostoyevsky said, “Love is a wonderful and mysterious thing”. 

Wonderful because it empowers you to do what you didn’t know you could. It balms your soul and heals your heart from its spiritual slumber and malady. It rearranges your priority. It makes you feel weird and awesome and warm. It wakes you up in the morning and makes you go to bed late. It seizes your imagination. It decides what you do with your evenings, how you spend your weekends, what you read, whom you know, and what breaks your heart. It is wonderful!

Mysterious because from all eternity, way way before you were ever formed in your parents’ bosom, way way before your great great grandparents had met in that wonderful day, ages before your parents have ever met, God has ordained for you to be together, to become one flesh. That’s something I can’t explain, none of us knows why it happens, why now and not earlier or later. What a mystery!

Know this however, love is never conquered. You’re never done falling in love. It’s always in beta form, always in the process of becoming. It doesn’t happen to you once and for all. It always needs to be harnessed, cultivated, gardened, trimmed, encouraged, rediscovered daily, in every season of life to get the best out of it. It needs to be connected to its source—God. 

Therefore, let today be the beginning of your love. If you want to have a flourishing, fruitful, harvesting, profound marriage, don’t make each other the first priority. Put God first. With him as the center of your marriage, your love will never run dry or out. 

Concretely, that means the sacraments. Praying together. The word of God. The rosary—as the saying goes, “a family that prays together….”

Lastly, I ask someone married for 65 years—what’s the secret of a long, lasting happy marriage, he said—just shut up. She said—“bourbon”. Well, I hope you like drinking. …That’s a joke!

My friends, 

Do you remember how you used to look to the future with fire in your belly, feeling that anything was possible? 

Do you remember how you used to think anything was possible with the help of God?  

Do you remember the time when you used to always see the glass half full, hopeful, full of life?  

Do you remember the times when someone asked you–“what do you want to be when you grow up? your eyes would light up; you’d enumerate so many dreams and hopes you had?  

Yes, I’m talking about that time in your teenage years when life was green, life was pink, life was delicious… 

Yes, I’m talking about that time after college when you were smart and you knew it; you had vision, you felt unconquered and unconquerable… 

Yes, I am taking about that time when you used to take your faith seriously; prayer was fruitful; going to church was delightful; God was palpable….  

Now, you don’t dare anything; you don’t long for much. You act defeated and you think defeated. 

You act trapped. You act as if youre caged in. 

Here’s my question to you— 

What has happened to that dreamy you, that hopeful you, that fearless you, that strong you, that decisive you—? When did you stop believing that everything was possible? 

In spiritual direction, I often ask someone—what are your plans, dreams, what do you want to accomplish, what do you live for? What would you die for? Deep down, I know what I am up against when the answer is ‘huh, nothing really’. In some way, they are lost; and they have no map; they have no memory, no vision, no desire beyond the ordinary. They are retired before retiring! Does any of this speak to your reality?  

What happened to you?  

Did the divorce smash your hope in humanity, and even in yourself?  

Did that one failure redefine your entire life?  

Is it due to that person who has hurt you so deeply that you feel like you can never recover?  

Is that sin still holding you back? 

Is it due to that guilt that keeps weighing you down even if it’s been 5, 10, 20, 30 years?  

What happened to you? When did life stop being excited? When did you stop dreaming, hoping, …? 

Is it due to that sickness that holds you back preventing you from any longtime commitment?  

Is it those voices, those people that keep telling you over and over again– ‘you can’t; you’re not worthy; you’re not smart enough? You’re not strong enough…’? what is it? 

What happened to you? If you cant answer that qyestion, youre halfway healed, free? 

Today, I’m here to tell you this—listen up–  no matter what had happened in your past they don’t define you; they don’t tell your entire story—God is the one that tells your story.  

I mean your failure, that letdown, that abandonment, that mistake, that struggle—that’s just a line, a paragraph, a page, a chapter in the masterful story that God is writing about you.  

That situation you face –it’s only a second, a minute, an hour, a day, a week, a month, a year in the beautiful tapestry of the story that God is writing about you. Stop acting as if they are the author of your life’s story; they are not; God is. And he is not done writing your story. God is not done with me—repeat with me. Say it as if you believe it. You’re still the pen in his hand and he’s still writing.  

So, only what God wrote about you matters.  

So, the question becomes then– What does he write about you? Because its important to know this—what I say about you doesn’t matter in the end. What your friends say about doesn’t matter at all. What the world says about has no bearing on you. Even what you say about you doesn’t matter—you don’t know you fully, really. They definitely don’t know you. Only what God says matters. Who knows a piece of art better than the artist who made it? God created, planned, handpicked you, knows you thru and thru. Only what he says about you matters, really. 

What does he say about you? 

You are chosen, destined, consecrated, made holy before the beginning of the world to the hymn/ symphony/ song/ for his glory. That’s your story. The Holy Spirit lives inside of you. You have access to God’s wisdom. You are reconciled to God. You are not condemned by God. You have been completely forgiven. You are tenderly loved. You are a sweet fragrance of Christ to God. That’s your identity; this is who you are.  

You are a branch attached to the fruitful, juicy, delicious vine that he is. You are the temple in which God dwells. You are light and salt of the earth. You are a joint heir with Christ. you share in the inheritance of Christ. you are united to the Lord and form one spirit with him. You are a member of the body of Christ. you are a living stone in Christ being built up on the foundation. You are a chosen race. You form a royal priesthood. You are a holy nation/ family. You are a people/ family chosen by the Lord. This is your complete story. most of the chapters of your life speak about that reality.   

There’s more! You have the mind of Christ. you can approach Christ in the boldness, freedom and confidence of a child. I have been rescued from Satan’s domain and transferred into the kingdom of Christ. you have been made complete in Christ.  you have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, of love and of a sound mind. You are royalty in God’s kingdom. You are free from any condemning power spoken against me. I am confident that the good work started in me will be brought to completion. That, my brothers and sisters, is the victorious story that God has spoken over you. That’s what defines you. 

Yes, I am taking about that time after your marriage—you used to cook, dance, sing, laugh, go for a walk together, enjoy everything together… life was wild. 

Let me conclude with the words of St. Paul– 

Ephesians 1:18-23– “I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is the same as the mighty strength he exerted when he raised Christ from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, [that power which is] far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every name that is invoked, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. by that power, God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way. 

Here’s what I’d like you to reflect on in the next 15 minutes in silence—what would you do today if you know no matter what you do, you cannot fail? 

It’s very telling that this silent man, this man about whom little is known has countless cathedrals, shrines, schools, cities, streets, millions of people, churches, chapels named in his honor. There is more! He is the Patron saint of the universal Church, patron of a happy death, Patron saint of Workers, and he is known as the “Guardian of the Redeemer. In the documents of the Church, only the Blessed Mother is mentioned more frequently than Joseph. Almost all the major saints had a devotion to him.

Here’s the first lesson— though very few may know your name, though you may never go viral, though you may not be very educated, tough your life may be lived in the shadow, though you may feel unimportant, although almost all of you will never be known for the hard work you do, if you allow God to take the driver’s seat in the car of your life, your reward will be warranted. Your name will be written in the book of life; your legacy will be extensive and expansive. You can still be impactful and influential.

 So, whatever vocation the Lord had entrusted to you, do your job! Live your vocation to its fullest magnitude! Be faithful in season and out of season! Don’t live it halfway. Do it better than Michelangelo can paint the Sistine chapel. Do it better than Andrea Bocelli sings the prayer. Do it better than Shakespeare can write a poem. If you do it that way, although no one may take notice of you, your name will never be forgotten. Generation after generation will honor you! God will honor you!

Point 2– Fathers are not born; they are made. You become a father through trial and, often, much error. Studies are not lacking over the past several decades on the role of fathers and the negative impact of absentee fathers on children. In fact, we are in the midst of a crisis of fatherhood. You know the numbers: 1 in 4 kids growing up in America today without a father in the home. 

Per report of the dept of justice, that has disastrous impact on children

• 63% of youth that committed suicides are from absentee or fatherless homes
• 90% of all homeless and runaway youths are….
• 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders….
• 71%of all high school dropouts…..
• 70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions…..
• 75% of adolescent patients in substance abuse centers…..
• 75% of rapists motivated by displaced anger….
• 75% less likely to practice the faith….

St. Joseph reminds us why there is no substitute for a good and loving father. Strive then to be a man of honor, not just integrity. Assume responsibility for your mistakes. Admit when you’re wrong… its ok to say youre sorry to your kids. Go back and try again. Know that you’re not your child’s best friends. Learn how to criticize them and give them feedback without hurting them. Learn how to affirm them. Build them up and give them confidence. Ask questions. Check how they are really doing often. That’s how you become a father….

But still St. Joseph beckons us to ask: how do we avoid that our children become a statistic? Thru ideas, incentives, practical applications, stimuli, rewards, examples, models, symbols, reflections, encouragement, dialogue and a constant rethinking of our way of doing things.

Lesson? Strive to give your children everything you can — education, a decent home, character, time, love and hugs and kisses, but know that God, faith and religion come first. If you do that, the crises of fatherhood will be greatly mitigated. We are all in some way responsible. Do your part!

Point 3. The gospel tells us that Joseph found out that Mary was with child and he did not know how since they had had no relations. Obviously, that must have been very distressful. Although by law, he is required to report him to the authorities, which would mean death, Joseph rather was looking for a way to dismiss her quietly in order not to cause any harm to her dignity. He did not call her names.…. he certainly did not beat her up or abuse her….  He remained a man of God even in the midst of this confusing imbroglio.

What do we see here? 

Through his quiet service and gentle strength, St. Joseph proposes to us a convincing vision of authentic masculinity; it is vision quite different from the one proposed by our culture today. Where our culture often tells men they must be dominant, Joseph is meek and humble, ever listening and attentive to the needs of others. Where our culture paints a picture of the quintessential man as powerful and aggressive, Joseph shows us a man that uses his inner strength for the protection of the vulnerable. Where our culture wants to use women’s bodies as a sexual tool to take advantage of whenever possible, Joseph shows us the dignity of women transcends their bodies. 

He teaches us most importantly how to break up with a woman; he teaches how to love them even when we fail to understand them. He teaches us that even when we know we are right, we do not to be pompous about it…. He teaches how we deal with a difficult situation reveals more about us than about the other person. He teaches to respect their feminine genius in them.

Lesson— Strive to live the virtue of magnanimity—greatness of soul—it’s the virtue that raises all the others to the highest virtue. The stretching forth of the person toward excellence. Joseph comes to realize that the Lord has gifted him with the greatest responsibility and decided to stretch forth that responsibility to the highest level. Husbands—you have been granted a unique responsibility of leading your wife and your children to heaven. The lesson from Joseph here is this—the best way to succeed in this is to prioritize our relationship with God.

Dear candidates, If I give you $50 billion, what would you do with it?….. feed a lot people, buy a house, car, help your parish, private airplane….  

Well, you won’t be given money today— but when I put that Chrism oil on your forehead and say “Receive the gift of the Holy Spirit,” at that very moment, you will receive power/ grace/ gift/ a special mission; a mission more valuable than any amount of money anyone can give you; a power and mission that will turn you and others into tools into the hands of the Almighty God; a power and mission no one, nothing can ever take away from you, if you don’t allow them. 

You will receive mission from on high like 

• St. Jude to give hope to the hopeless and despairing… to preach the good news of Jesus Christ to family and strangers alike.
• Aaron in the Old Testament to be set apart only for the service of God and to offer your life as a pleasing sacrifice to the Lord.  
• St. Joseph to respond to Gods call even when you don’t understand everything. 
• St. Michael to fight for and defend God when other people say he doesn’t exist or he’s not real. 
• St. Catherine of Siena to set the world on fire and to bring peace and unity where there’s division. 
• St. Dymphna to stand up with those who suffer mentally, spiritually and marginalized. 
• St. Augustus Tolston to shine, to give taste, to love even when you face unjust opposition from those who are supposed to raise you up. 
• St. Luke to put Jesus before your job, family and friend and even yourself. 
• Josephine Bakhita not to allow your past, and your hurts to define who you can become through the power of forgiveness and healing. 

These are the saints you have chosen as your confirmation name. They are stars in the skies of our lives because they lived their God-given mission. Imitating them is recipe for greatness.

These powers, this mission, the grace, the gift you will receive today are not yours to keep; they are given to you to heal, transform, gather and serve others. use them they multiply. Don’t use them you lose them. As simple as that!

As the second reading says, God gives them to you to

• Show compassion to the suffering around you. 
• Exercise purity in a world that tries to devalue it. 
• Bring hope and positivity in a world devoid of hope.
• Forgive even when someone hurts you. 
• Speak up for the right thing. 
• Do the right thing even when everyone around you is doing the wrong thing. 
• Fight for life from conception to natural death.
• Practice non-violence though violence can be so much easier, to give back to your community.
• Become selfless servants.
• Make your faith the light in your decisions.
• Become a leader in your schools, workplace, and family
• Become involved in church and in society in the name of God, to turn the other cheek.
• Go to confessions often, to give yourself a new start.
• Practice humility, which is the way to the mountaintop.
• Choose joy even when complaining, sarcasm and cynicism are easier. 
• Always strive to receive Jesus in a state of grace. Grace makes you better at everything you do.
• Become priests and religious sisters and good married men and women.
• Never stop practicing your faith because that’s. 

That’s the potentials you will have in your hands from this day forward. 

These gifts, my fellow young friends, are more powerful, most magnificent, more explosive, more sublime than any amount of money anyone can give you. Why? Because 

• Money can’t change people’s hearts, these power from on high can. 
• Money doesn’t last, these do. money can’t buy you happiness, these can. 
• Money can’t solve your issues, these can.
• Money can’t take away your fears and inner insecurities, these can. 
• Money can’t give you a holy family, church community and neighborhood, these can. 
• Money certainly can’t get you to heaven, these will. 

The awesome gifts you will be receiving today can do infinitely more than you can think or imagine, let them be unleashed in you! They are the secret to both a successful Christian and a secular life. Choosing them will bring happiness. Not choosing them will hurt your and a lot of people. Choose well! 

Beauty! What a contagious, intoxicating, captivating thing! Whoever you are, no matter what your experience may be, beauty gets your attention. Beauty is the overpowering one. It is impossible to ignore it. That’s why it is one of the best means of evangelization. I may not be able to get you through arguments (truth), I may not be able to get you through my goodness (the good), but spend enough time with me, I’ll get you through the beautiful (beauty). That’s why the church has always been a friend of the art in her efforts to evangelize. She sees art and artists as a worker in the vineyard helping her to echo the gospel to every creature. That’s what the best advertisers are usually masters of the arts.

Throughout history religious people and the church have always been patrons of the art. That’s why the Church, through St. John Damascene, in the 8^th and 9^th centuries, vehemently opposed “the iconoclast crisis” i.e. the destruction of work of art. Many of the Church Fathers were artists and poets. In fact, When the Edict of Constantine in 313 declared Christianity tolerable, work of art became a privileged means of conveying the faith. Majestic basilicas, shrines, chapels, stain glass windows, paintings, sculptures depicting passages from scripture began to appear. What does the Church understand by this? You cannot argue with beauty. It is too appealing.

Pope Paul VI spoke of artists in lofty terms when he refreshingly told them, “We need you; we need your collaboration to carry out our ministry of… preaching and rendering accessible and comprehensible to the minds and hearts of our people the things of the spirit, the invisible, the ineffable, the things of God himself. We need you because in this activity … you are masters. We need you to make accessible … treasures from the heavenly realm of the spirit and to clothe them in words, colors, forms graspable to all. Deprived of your assistance, our ministry would become faltering and uncertain…. In order to scale the heights of lyrical expression of intuitive beauty, priesthood would have to coincide with art.” Only experience can tell us if that statement is true, but at least it tells artists how they are seen in the eyes of the church.

In letter to artists, John Paul II echoed to artists where they stand in relation to society “Society needs artists, just as it needs scientists, technicians, workers, professional people, witnesses of the faith, teachers, fathers, and mothers…(4). To repeat, at the end of the day, beauty will save us. We need artists to keep producing.

What is the cash-value of art?

I think art helps us in our search for meaning. We can subscribe to anything once we get its meaning. Without beauty, certain meaning cannot be understood. Authentic beauty is not only for the intellectuals. It takes us to a world that we are called to, but can’t get on our own; art and beauty liberate our minds from darkness, transfigure it, and empower it to transcend itself. It’s like being inspired. You suddenly feel empowered to act.

Art and beauty, in the words of Plato, give the human person a healthy “shock”, draws him out of himself, wrenches him away from resignation and being content with the ‘everyday’; rather, it “reawakens” him, opens afresh the eyes of the heart and mind to experience awe and wonder. Beauty pulls us up.

Finally, beauty is a path towards the transcendent, towards the ultimate Mystery, towards God. no one should be surprised about this since God is beauty itself. Is it not that beautiful that while we cannot do anything that can benefit God, he still keeps on loving us? Is it not beautiful that while we were the one who ran away, he is the one who went after us? How beautiful it is that God puts up with us though we are the lowest i.e. dumbest of all the rational creatures?

In conclusion, we are al in some way custodians of art and beauty. They speak to our feelings and reasons, touch the individual as well as the collective, call forth our dreams and hopes, and broaden our horizons of knowledge and of human engagement, support them.

If you are a church news aficionado, you definitely have heard about the synod on the Pan-Amazon region in early 2018.

A little background of the issue on the Amazon

It’s a vast territory with an estimated population of 33.6 million inhabitants, of whom between 2 and 2.5 million are indigenous. The area of the Amazon River extends over 9 countries in South America.

It’s multi-ethnic and multi-cultural. Each community has its own worldview, symbols and meanings, and vision of the future. They know how to adapt to the territory. However, today the scientific community warns of the risks of deforestation of that region. This endangers the survival of the entire ecosystem, biodiversity and the cycle of water vital for the survival of the tropical forest; 17% of the region is deforested already. In addition, the Amazon is an invaluable and fundamental life support systems for air, water, soils, forests and biomass for the whole of the Americas. As of late, it’s becoming a place of pollution-related diseases, drug trafficking, illegal armed groups, alcoholism, violence against women, sexual exploitation, human trafficking and smuggling, organ traffic, sex tourism, the loss of original culture and identity. Many feel we can no longer ignore this is due to a lack of education of the inhabitants. A sustained presence of the Church there can transform that.

Where does Church come in?

How best to evangelize the people of that region? That’s what the Synod was about. To achieve this, some have suggested that the Roman Catholic Church allow the ordination of married men of that region and just for that region.

It was open debate at the Vatican. Faithful Catholics nervously waited what pope Francis would decide; others jumped on the opportunity to promote their agendas. The media buzzed and feasted on the question.

Benedict XVI and Robert Cardinal Sarah wrote a short book entitled From the Depths of our Hearts[1] on priestly celibacy since they could not fathom such a change. It’s just not theological or doctrinally feasible, and not just because it’s a slippery slope.

Cardinal Sarah maintained that ordaining married men to the priesthood would be a pastoral catastrophe, lead to ecclesiological confusion, and obscure our understanding of the priesthood because:

a) A consistent priestly life ontologically requires celibacy. The priest is not a man who performs a sacrificial function, but a man who offered himself as a sacrifice through love. The priest removes himself from worldly bonds to unite himself completely to God so that he can become available for others.[2] Since the priest offered the sacrifice of the Mass, matrimonial bond is impossible since he cannot have two spouses.[3] Sarah points out that the priesthood cannot be understood apart from celibacy. This is not a matter of discipline only; it’s not just a way to make oneself available. It is a mean by which the priest configures himself to Christ. Priesthood involves a total gift of self to the Church as Christ to the Father. It would be unjust to require that of a married man. A married priest would make him a lesser Christ.[4] It is part of the very identity of the priest that he resembles the Bridegroom in whose person he acts in all aspects. Christ emptied himself to the point of death; similarly, celibacy is a self-emptying for God and others. how can a married priests give himself totally when he has to worry about the well-being of his wife and children? How can he put himself in precarious and dangerous situation when he has to secure a good future for his children? The people of the amazon region have the right to a full experience of Christ the Bridegroom. We cannot offer them second-class priests.[5]

b) It is argued that due to the shortage of priest in the Amazon region, the people are being deprived of the most precious gift Christ left his people—His Body and Blood. Cardinal Sarah addressed that when he clarified for all that the priesthood is neither a right nor an obligation. The Eucharist is an unmerited gift, not an obligation. Such obsessions are the product of ideologies developed by sorcerer’s apprentices exploiting the distress of the voiceless. In strong language, Sarah maintained that we cannot tamper with the doctrine of the priesthood and celibacy in order to tailor-make a response to the felt or alleged needs of some extreme pastoral situations. Celibacy is a driving force that makes evangelization and missionary credible. Ordaining married men to the priesthood would discredit their missionary motives. A man does not become a priest because it is necessary to fill a need of the community. Priesthood is a state of life, not a function to be fulfilled. Marriage is a different state of life. To ordain a married men to the priesthood would amount to diminishing the dignity of marriage and reducing the priesthood to a job.

A Historical Interlude

What do we say of the fact the Church for the first few hundred years of her existence many married men were ordained to the priesthood? Cardinal Sarah maintained that although that was true, these men promised on the day of their ordination to abstain from sexual relations with their wives indefinitely. In fact, at the council of Elvira, the church excluded many bishops, priests, and deacons from the priesthood because they broke that promise. And no one protested at that time against that decision.[6]

Okay, your Eminence, why can in the Roman Catholic Church not handle the situation like the Eastern Orthodox church? They allow married priests. To that, with astute dexterity, the cardinal says that would be solving an issue with another issue. In fact, allowing married men to the priesthood in the east was due to a mistranscription of canons from the council of Trullo in 691.[7] It was never supposed to happen that way. Also, there’s so much tension between the two states in the Eastern Church. Many easterners refuse to go to confession to a married priest. Many of them have experienced divorces. Their churches are empty. They don’t have more vocation than the Roman Church. In many cases, the priests cannot even support their families. They are in crisis. Yes, most of eastern churches are in communion with the Roman Catholic Church; that is so to foster a gradual development toward the practice of celibacy.[8] When married men from other denominations are ordained, they are rather exception to the general norm of what priesthood means.

Stop Beating around the Bush!

What can be done to bring the gospel to the people of the Amazon region? there’s nothing more contagious than priestly fervor and faithfulness. One such priest can give rise to more vocation than 100 indifferent, cold, empty, unfaithful priests.[9] Though there may a dearth of vocation, find such priests and send them there. The real solution is to raise an army of the baptized in and/or for that region to hand on the faith to the people.

Not convinced? In the history of the Church, we have many such examples. In Korea, one the missionary priests were martyred, laypeople kept the faith alive for over one hundred years. In Uganda, through the work of laypeople, the faith grew and multiplied. In japan, though the missionaries were expelled and martyred, the Christian community lived for two centuries without a priestly presence. The point is this: we don’t need to clericalize the lay faithful. We need to disciple them as Jesus disciple the 12 and send them forward. Their very baptism and confirmation are an untapped potentials have not been exploited nearly enough, and we are underestimating them. Satis![10]

Cardinal Sarah argued that he cannot, in good conscience, support the idea of married priests in the Church not simply because it is impractical, but more importantly because there is an ontological-sacramental connection between priesthood and celibacy. The latter is the instrument of our entrance into the priestly being of Christ.[11] It is a witness to a world beyond this one.

[1] Benedict XVI and Robert Cardinal Sarah, From the Depths of our Hearts: Priesthood, celibacy, and the Crisis in the Catholic Church, trans. Michael Miller (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2020)

[2] ibid 66

[3] ibid 67

[4] ibid 69

[5] ibid 72

[6] Ibid 77

[7] Ibid 80

[8] Ibd 81

[9] Ibid 120

[10] ibid 96-7

[11] 137-8

God chose the foolish of the world to shame the wise, and God chose the weak of the world to shame the strong, and God chose the lowly and despised of the world, those who count for nothing, to reduce to nothing those who are something, so that no human being might boast before God (1 Cor 1:27-29).

If you take the time to make sense of God’s way, you will notice whenever he wants to achieve something, he usually goes about it in some unique, strange and odd way. he usually chooses the oddest means possible, most unexpected and interesting people possible, and most unsavory of places.

Just a few examples to clarify this point!

To enter our world, he not chose a teenage girl, he chose to be born in the unsanitary, dirtiest, most dangerous, and unexpected places you could have imagined. Even if you were drunk, you probably would not choose such a place for the mighty God to be born.

The place he was crucified was at some point the garbage dump of the city. Yet, it became one of the most important places in the history of the human race. Even you put a whole team of drug addicts together, they probably wouldn’t have chosen such a place.

To save the city of Nineveh, he chose Jonah. A Jewish man who not only hated foreigners, but a staunched enemy of the Ninevites. Yet, he chose to save them thru him. After much rebellious opposition, he went to Nineveh and spoke one line: “In forty days, Nineveh shall be destroy, unless you repent! The moment they heard his words, they all repent in sackcloth and fasting.  Even you put the smartest people together,  they wouldn’t have chosen Jonah as means to save nineveh.

To commence the evangelization of Samaria, Jesus used “the Samaritan woman”– rejected, outcast, prostitute that no one wants to talk to. Yet, meeting her and transforming her life, she became the means by which he reached Samaria. Even if you team up the craziest feminists in the world, they would not have chosen her.

What do we see here? In all these cases, God uses odd, interesting, unexpected, unsavory people and place to carry out his plan. In fact odd and unsavory don’t really capture what really happened in these caes. Whether you look at it from conservatives or liberals’ viewpoint, it just makes people cringe.

Again, God chose the foolish of the world to shame the wise,…. (1 Cor 1:27-29).

Here’s the point– if you look at the Catholic church in America right now, you should think that it’s the last thing that God can use to save people. The church right now looks unsavory, dirty, hellish, and embarrassing.

But just like God transformed the manger into a place of adoration, just like he changed the idolatrous Ninevites into godly people, just like he altered the garbage dump of Jerusalem into the holiest place on earth, just like he uses the embarrassing Samaritan woman into evangelizer, so will he do with this scandalous church. His ways are odds and strange. We don’t always get his ways. That’s precisely why he is God. he knows what’s he’s doing. But in the midst of our confusion,  we don’t give up. We trust.

On an individual level, if you feel like your life in its own way has been like a garbage dump the last place God would want to dwell due to sin, addiction, unfaithfulness, then don’t get discouraged. The more strange one’s life is the easier it seems for God to transform it.

When did it happen? How did it happen? What have I accomplished? So much to say! So many beautiful experiences! So many graces! What is the perfect way to encapsulate it all? It is a time to count my blessings and be thankful.

First, my greatest and loudest thanks go to Almighty God! He has chosen me to be a priest for the sanctification of his people. Then He has brought me here to serve, love, learn, grow, and mature. That’s what I think this first year was about. I am privileged to serve at a parish where there are ample opportunities to experience it all—the beautiful, the best, the awesome, and the joy. In my first year at parish ministry, it is clear that there are no dull moments for a priest, especially if he makes himself available for people. It’s either he is doing something, or getting ready to do something for the people. I don’t think anyone is ordained for himself. So, that’s how it is supposed to be

Secondly, I am thankful to each of the parishioners for putting up with me for almost a year. They’ve been overly supportive, prayerfully uplifting, consistently kind and generous. I’ve the privilege of being a servant, a priest, a father, a man, a brother, and a friend journeying home with them. That’s what I have tried to be.

I’m thankful to my pastor. Every “baby” priest needs someone to feed him with soft food and drink, hold his hands, and lead him as he tries to make his first step in ministry. the pastor has been that someone. He has been there throughout this first year patiently helping me, answering my questions, and teaching me how to apply what I’ve learned at the seminary. Thank you. So many others have helped me to get to this point. My parents and close friends, strangers and fan who never cease praying for me. your prayers do more than you can think or imagine. I need them! Keep them coming. Only in heaven will you know fully the effects of what you have done.

Although I spent 8 years in seminary formation, how could have I known what ministry would be like? During this first year, I’ve seen a lot– people growing, heart transforming, spiritual wounds healed among the young and the aged. I’ve experienced many discovering what it means to be loved, forgiven, accepted, and free for the first time. I’ve seen people being convinced of the power of the gospel, feeling empowered by the sacraments, and sent forth to be and live their best. God can achieve all these without me; yet, he has chosen to do them through me. What a privileged!

Among the many blessings of this year, preaching has been among my favorites. There is something powerful about preaching the word of God. Of course, hearing confessions, teaching at the school, and enjoy a fun game with the students in the parking lot, or going bowling with friends have been some of the greatest blessings of this new year.

God has been good to me, and I am so very thankful that He has called me to this life. Know of my prayers for you, and thanks for praying for me.